friendship and distance?

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Post 1 by season (the invisible soul) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 6:06:53

hi.
will you believe that distance can tare a very good friendship away?
me and my friend, or perhaps someone have known her by the name raining was very very close before i left for my further study. but somehow, cause of the distance problem and cause her place don't have a very good internet connection, we hardly talk anymore. not even ones a month. but when we talk, the friendship or so call sistership still there. just that, sometime its so hard to maintain it after all i'm not free to call her on long distance all the time, and she con't really come online or either call me. i feel so close but yet so far away from her.
any similar experience on such situation? and how to get the friendship maintain?

Post 2 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 6:08:44

sis, I know how that feels. It is not such a long distance with me, but my friend lives on the other side of Germany, and I hardly get to see or speak to her. But I think true friendship will last, no matter how far you are away from each other. And I am sure you will see her again someday.

Post 3 by Bryan (This site is so "educational") on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 8:42:34

yes, true friendship is for ever, i have going a year with out seeing or talking to a good friend and when we finally get a chance to talk, it's like old times, so try not to stress to much.

Post 4 by Tiramisu (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 0:24:32

Here she comes, well I think the friendship would sustain no matter what. Unless you give it up. Anyway, cheerio!!!

Post 5 by season (the invisible soul) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 3:10:03

haha, here she is. never come online for ages but yet, hmm,...

Post 6 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 5:19:18

*smiles*. See that's what I mean. If both won't give it up, the friendship will last through the distance.

Post 7 by motifated (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 7:38:26

The friendship can survive. I had a friend who is like an adopted daughter to me. She's been all over the States and spent time in foreign countries. We've never lost touch. Outside of my wife, she's probably the most special person in the world to me. Months go by, and we talk and e-mail when we both have time. Sad to say, she lives in the same city as me and we rarely see each other. I'm on vacation from work next week, and we're going to have lunch one day. I can't wait! All that to say that if your spirrits are united, you'll maintain the friendship.

Lou

Post 8 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 13:00:55

Nice.

Post 9 by rat (star trek rules!) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 22:00:02

yeah, i have a friend like that, didn't see her for about two years at one point and we are still great friends. i only wish i could contact her agin...

Post 10 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 07-Oct-2006 8:00:41

Yeah, but the good thing is that if the friend is really a good friend they will contact you or you will find a way to contact them. Real friends want to make a real effort to keep in touch.

Post 11 by Puggle (I love my life!) on Saturday, 07-Oct-2006 18:17:58

season, what you guys could do, if you are feeling like youd on't get much of a chance to talk to each other, you could always write emails when eve ryou feel like you want to talk to her and send them, that wasy, when she finally does get on line, she will see that you have been thinking of her, and have lots of mail to read.

Post 12 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Saturday, 07-Oct-2006 20:53:03

I had a good friend but we broke off the friendship because she would hardly call me anymore. She blaimed it on not having enough time and so on. Do to the lack of communication I broke off the friendship. She was also hiding things from me as well.
Troy

Post 13 by goddess of fire and love (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 08-Oct-2006 5:38:45

i have to say i understand this situation more than a lot of people. i have just come back from my year abroad where i was in costa rica, france, italy and romania. in this past year and a half, i have met some of the best friends i will ever have. right now, i am back at university moaping about as i have to re adjust to being here again. i miss everyone so much, but i know that even if i don't talk to them for months at a time, we will still have stuff to talk about and experiences to share. a good friendship is defined by the fact that even if you don't talk for ages, they will never disappear and when you do talk, you won't even notice the fact that you haven't spoken for a while. it is tough sometimes though but just look forward to when you can finally see each other again!

Post 14 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 08-Oct-2006 7:41:16

I like Puggle's suggestion. I would try that if I were you.

Post 15 by UnknownQuantity (Account disabled) on Sunday, 08-Oct-2006 8:53:35

I, also like Puggles suggestion and would go with that.

Here's wishing you luck, Joanne.

Post 16 by season (the invisible soul) on Sunday, 08-Oct-2006 9:17:25

hee, smiles. actually both of us are all right, just feeling frustrated at times.
both of us like twin sisters,, we used to talk on phone at least ones a day, but now, that kind of close seems to be far away.
well, both have our own busyness, and it is just hard to really talk to one another like we used too. thats why, this topic come across my mind.

guys, no worries, we're doing all right.
cheers,

Post 17 by sophiagoh (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 10-Oct-2006 0:43:13

Hey season you could call her, I think she will have the time to chat with you. If not for a minute or. Now the phone charges for IDD calls are very cheap. Well I think writing an email would be good. Cheers

Post 18 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 15-Oct-2006 17:24:47

as long as neither of you give up, don't worry.

Post 19 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Monday, 16-Oct-2006 0:03:28

Yeah, I agree with you guys. A true friendship si definted by motivation and love. I'm experiencing some of that, it just seems like some of my best friends and I like never alk, and we're working on it, but as people have mentioned Season and Raining (don't know your real name sorry), things will definitely work out allright. Hugs.